NO MORE DARKNESS
WRITTEN BY ELIZMA BYLEVELDT
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Dear friends in Christ,
I thank God for the opportunity to share another article with you and that He is in control of every word you are about to read. Today I want to write about a very sensitive subject. I have been feeling in my heart that there are some of you who need to read this in order to begin a healing process. If any of you have ever been sexually abused in any way and you have been carrying this secret with you on your life’s path, God is saying that He wants to come and heal you and make you free. In order to live life to its fullest and appreciate all the blessings God has in store for you, you HAVE to get rid of the secret that is eating away at your life from deep inside and you need to do it NOW!
Do you know that most victims of sexual abuse live their whole lives without dealing with it? Their WHOLE lives!!! My friends, life is too short and too precious to waste on those scars! Do you want to get rid of this silent killer inside of you? If so, then there are three things I want to help you realise.
NR 1: YOU ARE FORGIVEN, for anything in your life that you feel guilty about- If you have accepted Jesus Christ as your Saviour, Lord and Friend. Romans 8:1-2 “There is therefore now NO condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to The Spirit. For the law of The Spirit of Life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death.”Isaiah 44:22 “I have blotted out, like a thick cloud, your transgressions, And like a cloud, your sins. Return to Me, for I have redeemed you.”John 8: 36 “Therefore if The Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.” Also read Colossians 2:13-15.
My friends, if you cannot accept this, then you have a serious problem and also have no idea how much God loves YOU!! Guilt is NOT of God! Jesus died for us, gave His precious life so that you and I can accept this simple fact without ever doubting it.
NR 2: If you have been, in any way, sexually abused, (no matter whether it was someone just touching or molesting you, violently sexually abusing or raping you, or making you feel sexually hurt in ANY way; whether you were 6, 16, or 60 or if it is still happening to you), then YOU ARE NOT GUILTY AT ALL!!! You are a VICTIM, period. Accept it. Your body belongs to you and to God and no one, NO ONE on earth has a right to take advantage of it or make you share it with them. NO ONE!! 1 Corinthians 6:19 tells us our bodies are temples of God. Not of anyone else! That is a fact!
Accept it now! Sexual abuse causes a false sense of guilt in our deepest, innermost being and it is placed there directly from satan. It is a very difficult concept to grasp for those of us who experience it. Those who abuse us in that way know it and they find it easy to place the blame for what happens directly on us. “You asked for it. You dress provocatively. I can see you want it.” Or in the case of especially children being molested: “I am showing you how much I love you. This is our special secret. You make me feel unloved if you don’t want it.” Or they install fear. “Imagine what your mom will think of you if she finds out. I know what a dirty little child you are inside, so don’t make me tell everyone else what you are doing. I will hurt you. I will kill you or your loved ones. I will make your family suffer and then they will blame you.” Or in an adult relationship: “You are my wife and it is your duty. Why don’t you want to? Don’t you love me? If you don’t give it to me, I will find it somewhere else.”
Does any of this sound familiar? There are endless ways of making you feel like you have no choice, so you go with it. Your abuser knows just how to install fear in you believe me. There is another thing that is very important to understand and this is especially important when it happens to a child. The first time may not be that bad! You may even have felt a bit excited about it; you may have experienced it as exhilarating and kind of fun in a naughty way. Then, afterwards you think: “It couldn’t have been abused, it was fun!” And THAT awakens the guilt inside because you know those kind of things are sinful and wrong, dirty, shameful! “So why did I like it? Why was it exciting? Am I such a dirty, filthy child? I am so disgusting that I can’t even look at myself. What is wrong with me?”
If this sounds familiar I want to put you at ease about it RIGHT NOW! You are HUMAN, made with human instincts, emotions and an unbelievably sensitive, intricate neural system. There are millions of neurons and nerve endings in specifically those places in our bodies, put there by God, who made us to react in a certain way when those nerves get stimulated. It’s a simple biological fact. We are all made that way in order to be able to enjoy sexual stimulation. That is why sex is such a fascinating thing! But, being introduced to that kind of stimulation when you don’t know anything about it yet can be very confusing and it opens a MAJOR door leading to a false sense of guilt.
So if this was the case with you, like it was with me, I pray in the Name of Jesus Christ that you will let it go now! If you can now realise you have a false sense of guilt and you erase that out of the equation, ask yourself: “Is there ANY reason on earth that I should still feel guilty for being a victim of a hideous act?” There is NO reason! Accept it! If you accept this reality right now, you have won the biggest part of the battle already and you can have peace about it in your heart. You are a victim. That change the outlook completely, doesn’t it?
But now, the most important step that has to follow. Ask yourself: “Do I want to stay a victim forever?” Of course you don’t! So how do you move on from here? You make a decision to say NO MORE. Take a stand against it and your God WILL stand with you. No matter what you abuser says. Your abuser is lying and God is on your side! You may feel afraid of the repercussions that may follow. “What if I end up on the street with my kids? What if my boss fires me when I accuse him? What if my dad goes to jail? What if I end up in the social services program or in a foster home? What if? What if? What if? ”
Listen to me, dear friends, YOUR GOD is with you, on your side and if you take the stand, He will NOT throw you to the wolves. Go read Isaiah 41 now! Your trust and faith is in your God, who is far greater than any person, any fear or any situation.1 John 4:4 “ You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.” Once again, if you cannot accept this, you have NOT yet come to the point of understanding that you are in Christ and how powerful your God is! Then I suggest you go down on your knees right now and ask God to open His Word, His Truth, and His Love to you right now! Accept what the Word of God tells you and take action now! If you can do that, you will change, from being a victim to being a SURVIVOR for ever!
NR 3: If you can come to this point, you will realise that whatever is in the dark, must come out into the light. Ephesians 5:11-13 “ And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful to even speak of those things which are done by them in secret. But all things that are exposed are made manifest by the light. For whatever makes manifest is light.” Also go read the following scriptures:
1 John 1:5
Colossians 1:13
John 8:12
Isaiah 50:10
1 Peter 2:9
1 John 1:6
Ephesians 5:8
Isaiah 42:16
Start by opening up to God and tell Him in your own words what has happened to you and how you feel. Then, become FEARLESS- say NO MORE to abuse and say it out loud. Tell the world about how God has opened your eyes and I tell you now, you will feel yourself changing from a survivor into a conqueror. My dear friends, when that happens, God Himself will plant a seed in your heart and you will become a witness to the world and tell everyone how God has freed you from the secret that you have been hiding your whole life! Is that not where God wants you? To be able to witness and go out into the world, helping the millions of other victims to walk the path of healing with God?
How can we be witnesses for the Kingdom, if we don’t have our own personal testimony of how God changed our darkness into light? Use your secret, your pain, your own broken heart, to do what God has placed you on earth to do- preach the Good news to those who don’t know it yet! Isaiah 61.
Dear Father God, I pray that every abused person who reads this will now choose, with me, to accept that they are conquerors in You. Lord come now and open their hearts, let Your Spirit come and take away their shame and turn them into conquerors for Your Name’s sake. I declare Lord, that You will change their lives! In Jesus Name. Amen.
Be fearless and say NO MORE and if you need help, ask for it. We are here to help you and pray with you. You are never alone.
With lots of love in Christ.
Lizz.