EYES TALK
If you had to write a test right now on the colour of the eyes of all your friends, family and colleagues, how many would you get right? Then again, how many times have we watched movies and was captivated by the colour of someone’s eyes, hence becoming a fixed memory? This happens because eyes talk, even if only by colour, therefore fixing a memory in our brains.
Matthew 6:22 says: “The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light.” The part I want to focus on is “the eye is the lamp of the body.” Thinking on the latter, it made me realise that we are so caught up in our own things. Where we live, so many people are making use of public transport, such as buses, trains and subways and hence, you often must sit, waiting amongst others. No matter where I go, I see people, including young children, caught up in some form of technology, many using earphones. Hence, people are moving in their own little space, and therefore excluding others around them.
I am not necessarily saying that to be on a phone, tablet or laptop in public is bad or that you can’t quickly type an e-mail or respond to a query, for I do exactly that. However, I have been noticing that this trend is on the increase and it made we wonder. If we are interested in the lives of those around us, we need to make the time to actually make contact with them. We need to turn to the people around us and speak with them. I know that not everyone are extroverts, but a simple “hello, how are you?” or “how has your day been?” can get a conversation going and make a world’s difference in someone’s life.
Reflecting on how things were done in the olden days, our parents would tell us that face to face conversations with another, are exactly how networking took place. People spoke to each other and found out how they were doing, get information about business and share ideas. People did not just network in order to get something from it, but they became contacts and friends forever, being there for each other through thick and thin.
I wonder, if we all stick to our own little world all the time, then what is happening in our own family homes? Busy schedules, kids want to share, parents work late, kids are involved in so many extramural activities and with life at such a rush, many end up doing their own thing, not even having supper together. Everybody is so busy and then we are so caught up in technology as well, that we miss each other altogether. I am not blaming technology or the fact that lives are busy, for we need to work and eat and move forward as our world is becoming more digital. I am merely saying that there should be a healthy balance, to still make time to communicate with another, as it is still key to determining what is really in one’s heart and mind.
I really want to encourage all reading this article, to reflect on their lives and busy schedules and to make time to communicate, without using technology, unless you are far in distance from another. Make time after work when everyone is home, to sit down with something to drink and talk about the day, without any television, radio, laptop or cell phone interference. For at least fifteen minutes, literally sit down and look at each other when conversations take place, not dividing the attention by doing something else whilst someone is talking directly with you. Hence, give undivided attention and look the person in the eye. God says that “the eye is the lamp of the body” and therefore, if you want to know what is happening in the lives of your children, spouse and friends, look them in the eye and listen to them attentively. You will be surprised with what you will see.
When two people are in love and they sit across from each other in a room amongst many people, they talk to each other’s hearts, simply by communicating with their eyes. So, yes, eyes talk! I leave you with some advice that we received from one of our Pastors: After a day’s events, as a family or if you do not have a family, as a group of friends, sit down together and share about your day, talking about the good, the bad and the ugly, also referring to yourself. This is a perfect time to share, laugh, advise and pray together.
Love in Christ, Princess K