THE VALUE OF TRUE FRIENDSHIP
Since I was a child I’ve never had many friends. People often saw me as complicated individual, never really knowing who I truly am. I guess I’m not the easiest to get along with because of my own little ways, but then again that is what makes me unique, just like all the wonderful people our Heavenly Father have created.
Sometimes people think they are in friendships, only to find that it’s filled with lies, deceit and disrespect. So why then call it friendship? I’ve learnt that in life true friendship must be weighed up against God’s word. In John 15:13 – 15 Jesus says “Greater love has no one than this, that He lay down His life for His friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.” Wow! Jesus, our Lord and Saviour are my friend? Yes dear reader! If you know Him, have a personal relationship with Him and follow His Word, you are his friend.
Weigh up your current friendships to your friendship with Jesus. He believes in you, loves you even when you make mistakes, always listens and forgives the unforgiveable. Suddenly you realise that your friends become less and more people around you are colleagues and simply people you got to know. They don’t really know your heart or the dreams you have. True friendship survives serious challenges and even when you might have done things that hurt your best friend, the true friendship you have pulls you through by way of forgiveness.
Perhaps you are single and looking for your life partner? Remember that you build a marriage on Christ and true friendship. That lady or gentleman must have a relationship with Christ and furthermore be your true friend who appreciates you for who you are. Perhaps you are married and feel like the friend you’ve known are now lost to you. You constantly fight, are over sensitive, more jealous than ever or simply don’t care anymore because of all the hurt that has taken place in your marriage. The same principle apply here as in the case of looking for a life partner. Where is Christ in your relationship, even if the one partner does not know the Lord? You should place Jesus first. Pray for your husband/wife even in silence. Give your marriage over to God. We often feel like giving up, BUT DON’T! Start over again, by first being friends. Make time to chat to another about your dreams, fears or simply share the happenings of your day at work/home. Cook his/her favourite meal, play a favourite song, rub his back, prepare a bubble bath for her. Come on, what made you become friends in the first place and relive it all over again. Don’t give satan the satisfaction of stealing your friendship.
Friendships are not only restricted to a life partner but also to school friends, writing friends, SMS friends, prayer group friends and very importantly friendship with your own family. When last did you contact your mother, father, brother, sister and family members? We need to realise that friendship is hard work and therefore extra effort needs to be put in, to show that we really do care.
The question right now is where in your journey of life and friendship are you right now? Are you feeling excited and happy or lonely and desperate? Take courage in the words of John 15: 13 -15 and remember that Jesus is with you. He is your best friend! Tell Him how you feel. Don’t hold back, he knows what you think anyway. I’ve had a couple of challenges in my life lately with special reference to my marriage, work and personal friendship. I sometimes feel as if I’m simply not doing anything right, only to realise afterwards that at least I’ve put in an effort. God does not expect us to be perfect but to try, and then to learn in the process. When all seems to fall apart, call upon Jesus. I sit in my car or on my bed and chat to Him. I say straight out how I feel and sometimes when I cry out “Lord please help me!” He says “You can do this my daughter, I have given you all the wisdom, courage, creativity, initiative, love etc that you need. Simply use it!”
Dear reader. When you are challenged in your friendship remember the words of Joshua 1:5 “I will never leave you, nor forsake you.” Your friend Jesus is always there for you. Never give up on true friendship for the value thereof is immeasurable!”
With lots of love in Jesus Name